I Need a Girl's Advice... (long)?

Alright well, this is kind of a long story but I'll try to super simplify it.





I've been in love with this girl for a good year now. She has a boyfriend. We started becoming good friends maybe 9/10 months after I first met her. Well shortly after we became good friends it spilled that I liked her. It didn't change much, we still talked a ton like we used. She liked me, but she's a good girl, she wasn't about to do anything to compromise her relationship. Stuff happened, long story short, she basically told her boyfriend she COULD love me. That kind of created some tension and has basically kept us from hanging out for the past 6 months or so.





I didn't really push for anything, I just enjoyed being her friend and getting to talk to her everyday for hours on end. Well things kept progressing, despite everything stopping us, and not to long ago she confessed she loved me.





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How long has she been with her boyfriend? It sounds like the time has come for her to make a choice. Although it may be hard for her to choose, it's even harder to for you guys to wait around wondering. She's not going to be happy or free until she picks someone and tries to make it work. And at this point I doubt if you two are ever going to go back to being just friends.





And for you...wow. You've been really patient and supportive (although HE prob sees it as sneaky). I don't think there's much more you can do besides tell her how you really feel. Maybe that's what she's waiting for since she's already told you. Don't wait forever, it sounds like this is all coming to a climax so if changes don't happen now, they probably won't after everything settles down. GOOD LUCK.I Need a Girl's Advice... (long)?
First off, your more then just a 'tad' upset. And rightfully so.





Tell her you care about her, and want her to make the best decision for HER, even if it's not you. Then let her have some space. (I know this will kill, but it's the only way).
First...good for you for taking a step back so she can decide what she wants. Second...the only person who needs to make this decission is her. She can't expect anyone to do it for her, otherwise it will not be truley what she wants. And if you love her you would want her to choose you because she loves you in return, not because she was told to. I know its hard to choose between two people, lord knows I have been there, but it has to be her decissison. good luck.
try to show her that you are not pushing her, whatever she decides you will understand, but not ignore you, coz thats not rite. in other hand, you know you cant keep runing after her, thats her mistake, if she wana lose a firend like you.. like ppl say let it go, if its ment to be it will *** back, if not, then only thing to do is just move on.. dnt make a fool of urself, if gilr cnt appreciate what u are suggestin her, thats her problem. she needs to solve herslef. anyway, gud luck.
Offer her help on homework. Smile at her. Wave. Ask her how her day was. Vent to her. Tell her your stories and try to make her laugh...





Or you could be frank and say, ';I know you don't want to move fast, so can we still be friends?';
Just make small talk with her. You can help her by leaving her alone when she needs to be alone. Ask her if you can help with anything.
ok, I know all this is really confussing. She actually told you that she didn't want to decide and she wanted someone else to decide? That should have been your cue to jump in and say I will decide and right there you should have told her that you were no longer going to except the I don't know. That was her telling you that she wanted to you take control over the decision. I can almost guarantee that the whole thing of not talking to you is because instead of taking the reigns and asking her out straight out, you just gave her space. I honestly think she never wanted space in the first place. She wants you to come out with it!
i got bored and didnt finish the story good luck with ya!
i don't really get the question???





send me an email...this is kinda interesting
The best thing that happened is that nothing happened. Give her a chance to pull her thoughts together. If she was really your friend, she still will be. She will be able to make a decision between you and him, but don't hold your breath on it. Carry on and be yourself and she will soon be herself. You will see it happen.
Honestly hun, you were right when you left her alone. I know that this made her upset, but she does have a boyfriend and she needs to choose. People can't make her choices for her because then she won't get anywhere in life. You could try to help her solve her problem, but that would be kind of weird considering that you are one of her options. She really should just be left alone for a while, and then when she gets her life straightened out then you could move back in and be her friend.
Well i suggest talking to her. It seems like the most logical advice. I would tell her you two have been friends for a long time and obviously she trusts you. Nothing has change, reiterate you are still her friend and that she can take her time. As for you I would normally say to back off but that might send mixed signals. Just keep expressing your friendship and she will get it eventually! Good luck!!!!
just get her to be more comfortable around u. like say funny things, or tell her shes beautiful.(dont say hot or sexy cuz it makes us feel btr if u say beautiful for some reason.) u guys sound like u will get along pretty well and i really hope it works out cuz i'v TOTALLY been there. and i know how it feels to be afraid to say things.so just take it slow and soft. i really hate sad relationship stories so try to make a happy ending for this one!!!!