Girl question, advice?

I've been with this girl for 8 years. Well recently, she's been trying to get onto the volunteer police department. Well she needs help from this one guy who I don't like and her and him have a history together. Well lately, they have been text messaging each other about when he can come pick up the application and things like that.





Thing is, she deletes the messages and calls. She says it's none of my business cuz it's not about you. I'll admit I'm paranoid and suspicious.





Well I tried to ';break up'; with her but she did not want to at all, and got upset.





My question is, if she did like this guy, when I told her I wanted to break up, is it true she woulda been ';ok'; and started dating him?





On the flip side, they both say nothing is there with each other, yet she deletes his messages and I can't be there when he comes and gets the application so I don't start nothing.





Am I wrong to be paranoid?Girl question, advice?
yes, you are wrong..


trust your gf..Girl question, advice?
Why bother being paranoid? If you're willing to walk away, what difference does it make to you what she's doing?





You two are still dating after 8 years. Clearly neither of you wants to marry the other. She probably didn't want to break up with you when you suggested it because she doesn't have her next guy securely in place yet.





Just break up and both of you move on. Sheesh.
well, i think its normal for u to feel like that... but... u should trust her... if she didnt break up with u, she really wants to keep the relationship... i wouldnt worry too much about it... the text messaging thing.. mm its weird... but maybe she just doesnt want u to read them so it doesnt make the situation worse...


trust her..
i would be wondering the same thing if i was u ask her y she delting her messages ask to see them and if she dont let u see is hidding something
8 years is a good long time that some measure of trust should have been built between the two of you. maybe she knows you'll be paranoid so she's trying to keep anything incriminating to a minimum. if you feel like bursting, talk to her nicely and come forward on what you feel. don't assume how she feels, just rationally talk about your own feelings.
Nope, you're not wrong for being paranoid. Her deleting his messages and phone calls sounds like she is hiding something. ESPECIALLY if they had a history together. Talk to her about it and tell her it makes you uncomfrotable. Ask her how she'd feel if you were doing the same with an ex flame. I BET she wouldn't like it one bit.