Need real advice: girl friend pushing me away?

First off I'm a guy around 20, and the girl is too.


Just to be clear we are not dating, we are friends for now, I do like her but being a genuine friend is more important to me.


I have had a laid back normal life, and she grew up poor and started from nothing. Shes a lot tougher than most girls, thats why I like her because she is unique.





The Good:


We get along really well about half the time, and when we get along its so nice, we dance and chill and we can talk about really personal things. I listen to her and we get really close, both in our talks and physically (she always tries to get as close as she can to me)





The bad:


She gets mad very easily and holds it against me. She is going through tough times and I said I want to help her out, and she said she doesnt need my help. Now she doesnt want to talk to me, and she goes into ****** mode* about how dumb I am for trying to help her, and for bringing drama into her life.





I believe I am crazy enough and have enough energy to work this out, she really does make me happy. I haven't cared about a girl in this way for a long time





So my question is, can anybody offer me good real advice of what I could do to make things better? For now I will just let her talk to me if she needs to, and give her spaceNeed real advice: girl friend pushing me away?
juz go to her and say wats wrong and can we juz change what is happening between us itNeed real advice: girl friend pushing me away?
yea the best idea is to give her space because if your around that person alot she will have someone to vent on when shes mad.
you apologize her for your fault and tell that you dint meant to hurt her feelings.And never ask any such question again.
Personally, I would ask (when she's not in ***** mode) her about what she wants from you. Tell her she can talk to me whenever she needs to, and flat out just be there for her. ALL girls want to feel needed and WANTED. So treat her like a princess and show her you CARE. She grew up with trust issues and still has them now. Don't blame yourself, relax, chill, and be patient. She'll trust you in the end, realizing you will not take advantage of her. I think she'll just take more time to trust you then normally. But, so far, to me, you are doing the best job as a guy friend. I can't think of one thing to do more. I would let her settle down and just show her you're there for her. Nothing more to do i guess? I hope ya'll get through this!! Hope i helped and Good Luck! (:
First stop saying that you are going to help or that you want to help her.She already knows it.





The fact that you get really intimate when things are going fine..is just that she is free at that time from all her worries.But thats it.





If she wants time off, thats ok.


You find something else to do meanwhile..do not assume that she wants everything that you are beginning to feel. Do work on being a credible, dependable person. If she sees that you are able to handle life even when she isnt close that proves you are mature.





When she comes back, if she does.. take time out and have a serious talk..not an ultimatum..but a heart to heart of how you have been living.But do not say you were managing without her..etcWhy i say 'talk' is because you seem to be listening to her a lot..who is listening to you?





Does she even know what she means to you?





Has she ever admitted what her life would be if she were to never see you again? hardening one's heart and going on with life is not the solution...so whatever happens..you stay strong...hope it works out well.





God bless you both.
Well from the good she must like having you around and because she grew up from nothing and prolly got stomped on she isn't going to want help she is going to think she can do it herself. I used to be that way till I found my boyfriend. You should tell her sorry and that you're there for her and if that doesn't work just give her space. Trust me she'll come around because if you talk about personal stuff and you are usually there she will need you.
Space is best when she is not gonna bring anything good to the table, leave her be until she's over it. She'll come back, she likes you, man.





She grew up poor, used to making do, used to not ';needing'; anyone, she's trying to show you how ';tough'; she is and how she ';doesn't need your help';, yall DIG each other so she never wants to come off as weak because she thinks if she shows you that side you might take advantage, she has trust issues.





You had a laid back normal life, so just be patient with someone who did not have it as laid back as you and has often had to worry about her safety.