I am dating Indian male. I like him very much. Two times he got upset with me because he didn't like how I was talking and one time get got mad because he said something that hurt my feelings and wanted to break up because he didn't want to hurt me. Obviously we have a culture clash, but I would like to over come it. How is a girl suppose to act with indian boyfriend? What is proper?American Girl need advice from India?
Women in European culture is forced into dating and partner finding race and independent life from as early as 15 years old. This forces them to mature in their relationship side quite fast, and they develop a sense of self dependence which becomes a part of their personality. Due to this they find it easy to discard a man if they feel he wouldn't match her taste or he is not her type, and move on and try to find a better match to settle down with. But Indian families are comparatively well-knit and they stay and support their kids till early or mid 20s, during which time Guys try to build up an identity of their own and girls seek alliances from guys of appropriate families who are well settled, financially sound and decent families. Most of the time strictly controlled by their families and due to the pressure of the society, a girl does not get to know a guy beyond friendship level because dating game is an alien concept to most of the Indian families except some modern families in metropolitans. So except for a select few modern generation girls who live in metropolitan cities, marriage is the beginning of their experimenting with deep interpersonal skills, which you people get past far before them during your dating adventures.
So after the marriage, among a typical Indian couple, obviously since the two people are from two different backgrounds, there will be incompatibilities, behavioral flaws, and likes, dislikes and difference in preferences. So the road ahead of them is like a constant trial of adapting, changing and accepting one another so as to make life better for both of them because there is no way out of it since they both are married. Some survive and end up finding love, respect and bond with their partner, while for others its just a purpose of coexistence for the purpose of survival. Either way...it all boils down to a select few divine couples made for each other, a lots of typical couples and even more bad marriages or divorces like anywhere else in the world.
However due to this, an Indian woman is expected to change and adapt to the ways of her man, who would do the same for her, where they both meet half the way. In contrast a woman from western culture maintains her individuality while keeps searching for a man which would suit her personality like a well set puzzle.
Hope this helped you understand the difference!!American Girl need advice from India?
hunn he seems passive aggressive i mean he gets mad when he hurts you and he gets mad when you say something he doesnt like
can he portray any other emotion
as for breaking up with you coz he doesnt want to hurt ur feelings LOL LOL LOL dont fall for that puleeeezzzz whhy cant he just grow up and not say and do things that will hurt you
does he leave everyone that he hurts or may hurt I mean really he has serious issues
its time for you to call the shots it may seem fun now but imagine how tedious for you to constantly walk on eggshells and never be urself
tell him to grow up ....be man enough to talk it like a man when u tell him uv hurt him and be mature enough to take steps to remedy mistakes made that lead to u getting hurt
as for what is proper i dont think this is an indian issue i think u need to re assess ur relationship coz if u want an indian answer
my indian husband aplogises when he does something that causes me to become upset he does not run away
Well he got mad on how u talk it means he is little bit conservative and having difficult time with your point of views. You might want to take it slow because Indian male is not like white guy (soft and caring). Indian guy wouldn't like out spoken girls. He could be sharp and little bit too emotional. Can you really act out his emotions? I don't think so. Just take it easy and be yourself.
It has to be said that if the two of you are dating, then you already have something in common.. Try working on those grounds n improvise it...
Culture clash can't be a major obstacle to your problem... me too an indian..
N true love is abt accepting differences... So, Just be urself... That's what makes u unique...
Remember this : '; Nobody can hurt u without ur permission ';
No guy will ever want to break-up if he loves his gal N if he really cares abt ur feeling then he should rather think abt solving the problems between both of u than think abt break-up.
It really seems like you care him very much so just sit down with him and discuss abt how you both need to adjust with each other so that you both don't hurt each other.
umm......indian culture doesnt allow people to date.....the only time they are supposed to be with another person of the opposite sex is like after marriage...but i guess some things are changing.....an example would be your relationship.....
i think he is uncomfortable to show emotions in public....he is probably a little reserved.....or maybe you are going to slow things down....if you're going to fast....you should talk to him about this.
Make sure he is an Indian man who is not still tied to his mother's apron strings, and make sure he is an individual, has a mind of his own and can stand up for himself... If you think THIS is a culture clash, just wait my dear.....
There are cultural differences,language and pronounciation are different, you have to ignore this if the guy is honest and sincere.
frankly tellin u being an indian,indian guys have more expectations from gals no matter indian or english,indian guys like shy,respectful,nice,decent and much more
u should look up in internet about indian people hey plz answer my question
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjsUk5HjvROKloLHNckI2qbsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080626163457AALpq64
You have to sacrifice something to get something %26amp; be nice in your behaviour.
Hey dont wanna scare u but may be u wanna see this too..
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Submissive
just try and be a little closed
dont open with him sooo much....!!
hey all the indian's need is just the friendly manner of a girl
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